Okay here's my question:
1. Keep Stingers placement the same.(keep him mainstreamed in his regular class)
no friends
battling the school every year
academics improving every day
no understanding on the part of staff and students
behaviors just get worse and worse as the staff has no clue how to de-escalate Stinger
calls and reports from school ending in suspension-or threats
2. Change Stingers placement. (self contained classroom or smaller classroom)
understanding kids-COULD make friends
academics fall
behavior plans thought out and individualized
understanding staff and no punishment
not his homeschool
Stinger hates changes
no battling with the school
Stinger finally feeling understood and not treated unfairly
behavior under control in controlled environment
could he ever get out of there????
I don't know what to do here......both choices are just....... bad...sigh......
Am I just refusing to see that he just cant make it in this school...in a reg classroom????Am I thinking if I just put the supports there-just this one more support..... that he could????knowing that one more support isnt going to cut it...How long do I keep trying...How long do I keep fighting????How long does Stinger have to go through this????How long do I hold onto a dream and finally....... let it go.......
I think the whole problem here is me......:( The more I truly think abt it-THATS the problem :(
God is my Captain, Dh is 1st Mate, my children are my stewardship, and my salary comes in hugs and kisses!
Saturday, December 02, 2006
Okay here goes......
I've been dreading writing about this but I might as well-who knows-it might just give me some answers....I need em....
I've got a meeting on Monday with the school, with the district behavior specialist, director(my fav lady)basically the whole team and then some......Ill explain how this came abt-as Im sure you all are just DYING to know....sigh.....
This is going to be long guys....
I get a call abt 1:30 on Monday from spec ed teacher(well call him Teacher X)"well Stinger has been having a hard day and I feel we REALLY need to keep him after to make up some minutes" He had 45 min to make up for something or another. I have repeatedly told the school I DONT like the time owed after school-time owed period as Stinger cant keep up with all the time and why he is doing it...sigh.....but I am put on the spot. Im thinking okay school gets out in a bit so Ill just go and get him in abt an hour. I was going to town anyway.....
So I get there and he has 30 min to still make up. Plus in that time he has had to go to the "room"-ill get to that bit latter. So Ive got Monkey boy there with me which isn't a prop but Im kinda perturbed as I thought his time would be up. I am sitting in that office for abt an hour. I see teacher X coming down the hall..... with no Stinger he is running away from Teacher X-which is leading to more min being owed. I go call Stinger who is hiding behind the coat racks-I go to him and Mr X-Stinger goes out the school doors, but comes back to me.
teacher X says that Stinger has 15 min still to make up. Wants to go back to the classroom and sit fro just 15 min-when he actually owes abt another hour.....Ridiculous. Stinger doesn't want to go.Tecaher X grabs him by the wrists and Stinger tells him to let go-doesn't. We get him in the classroom. Stinger still wont sit down in the chair. I have to leave to go get Flamingo at Scouts. WE go back to classroom and Bailey still isn't complying. Teacher X asks me to leave.. Stinger starts to go crazy crying and begging me not to leave. Flamingo goes crazy thinking Im leaving her brother and saying he needs us. After consi=oling Monkey boy who is crying now as well we go and sit in the car and wait fro him to call me abt a half hour latter .I get the call to come and get him. So I go in there and Stinger has on his coat, but has apparently in just that short time said something rude to the teacher and is Agnew supposed to sit. I go and wait in the car agn. I see Mr X and Stinger going back in the building and Im thinking to myself don't even be going to the "room" abt 20 min goes by I go to the doors to the school-of course they are locked-so I go back to the car and wait...... and then I get a phone call and they meet me at the car.
I was there at the school till abt 6: 30. Livid does not even begin to describe my thoughts at this point. We leave....
I come home. Im upset, Flamingo is still upset as well as Monkey boy. Stinger has no idea why.....
I immediately sit down to begin my process of writing a letter to the school Specifically stating that the time out "room" isn't to be used now and forever under no circumstances. That time owed is to be kept during school hours.
I go and talk to Stinger abt it-his fingers are raw, tells em abt climbing on the doorknob in the room, trying to get to the ceiling to get out of there falling down repeatedly..... Basically having an episode in the room feeling like it is a prison-anxiety and fear going through the roof in there...Im just getting more and more upset inside- Im fuming....I put everyone to bed now and then I head upstairs and cry.......
So next day I get "the phone call." they are just going to call me if there is a problem and have me come and get him.......SHEEEEESH.. How in the world is THAT solving ANYTHING....and that we are having a meeting on Monday....
I have written and talked to everyone I can think of. I get the
1. Go and pick him up-make this work
2. They are making it your problem since you wont do what they want-DONT get him
3. Make them officially suspend him so it counts as part of the 10 days-which by law they HAVE to do SOMETHING after 10 days change of placement-which then Im sure they will want to discuss.
4. Get a Lawyer.
So I dont know what to do.
1. They still haven't done testing to find out WHERE these behaviors are coming from
2. They are Punishing him not DISCIPLining
3. They escalate the behaviors by using the"room"
4. They escalate by touching him and grabbing him-even after he has said to let him go-and hes not bad abt asking either-I saw this the other day.....
So Im trying to pull my head together yet agn for this meeting as no one will talk abt anything-they just say" well discuss at the meeting. Fun-eh?
I have no idea how the meeting is going to go-I don't know what my position should be either.......
I've got a meeting on Monday with the school, with the district behavior specialist, director(my fav lady)basically the whole team and then some......Ill explain how this came abt-as Im sure you all are just DYING to know....sigh.....
This is going to be long guys....
I get a call abt 1:30 on Monday from spec ed teacher(well call him Teacher X)"well Stinger has been having a hard day and I feel we REALLY need to keep him after to make up some minutes" He had 45 min to make up for something or another. I have repeatedly told the school I DONT like the time owed after school-time owed period as Stinger cant keep up with all the time and why he is doing it...sigh.....but I am put on the spot. Im thinking okay school gets out in a bit so Ill just go and get him in abt an hour. I was going to town anyway.....
So I get there and he has 30 min to still make up. Plus in that time he has had to go to the "room"-ill get to that bit latter. So Ive got Monkey boy there with me which isn't a prop but Im kinda perturbed as I thought his time would be up. I am sitting in that office for abt an hour. I see teacher X coming down the hall..... with no Stinger he is running away from Teacher X-which is leading to more min being owed. I go call Stinger who is hiding behind the coat racks-I go to him and Mr X-Stinger goes out the school doors, but comes back to me.
teacher X says that Stinger has 15 min still to make up. Wants to go back to the classroom and sit fro just 15 min-when he actually owes abt another hour.....Ridiculous. Stinger doesn't want to go.Tecaher X grabs him by the wrists and Stinger tells him to let go-doesn't. We get him in the classroom. Stinger still wont sit down in the chair. I have to leave to go get Flamingo at Scouts. WE go back to classroom and Bailey still isn't complying. Teacher X asks me to leave.. Stinger starts to go crazy crying and begging me not to leave. Flamingo goes crazy thinking Im leaving her brother and saying he needs us. After consi=oling Monkey boy who is crying now as well we go and sit in the car and wait fro him to call me abt a half hour latter .I get the call to come and get him. So I go in there and Stinger has on his coat, but has apparently in just that short time said something rude to the teacher and is Agnew supposed to sit. I go and wait in the car agn. I see Mr X and Stinger going back in the building and Im thinking to myself don't even be going to the "room" abt 20 min goes by I go to the doors to the school-of course they are locked-so I go back to the car and wait...... and then I get a phone call and they meet me at the car.
I was there at the school till abt 6: 30. Livid does not even begin to describe my thoughts at this point. We leave....
I come home. Im upset, Flamingo is still upset as well as Monkey boy. Stinger has no idea why.....
I immediately sit down to begin my process of writing a letter to the school Specifically stating that the time out "room" isn't to be used now and forever under no circumstances. That time owed is to be kept during school hours.
I go and talk to Stinger abt it-his fingers are raw, tells em abt climbing on the doorknob in the room, trying to get to the ceiling to get out of there falling down repeatedly..... Basically having an episode in the room feeling like it is a prison-anxiety and fear going through the roof in there...Im just getting more and more upset inside- Im fuming....I put everyone to bed now and then I head upstairs and cry.......
So next day I get "the phone call." they are just going to call me if there is a problem and have me come and get him.......SHEEEEESH.. How in the world is THAT solving ANYTHING....and that we are having a meeting on Monday....
I have written and talked to everyone I can think of. I get the
1. Go and pick him up-make this work
2. They are making it your problem since you wont do what they want-DONT get him
3. Make them officially suspend him so it counts as part of the 10 days-which by law they HAVE to do SOMETHING after 10 days change of placement-which then Im sure they will want to discuss.
4. Get a Lawyer.
So I dont know what to do.
1. They still haven't done testing to find out WHERE these behaviors are coming from
2. They are Punishing him not DISCIPLining
3. They escalate the behaviors by using the"room"
4. They escalate by touching him and grabbing him-even after he has said to let him go-and hes not bad abt asking either-I saw this the other day.....
So Im trying to pull my head together yet agn for this meeting as no one will talk abt anything-they just say" well discuss at the meeting. Fun-eh?
I have no idea how the meeting is going to go-I don't know what my position should be either.......
Beautifil Song-PRAYER
Okay this song had me bawling tonight.....its by Celtic Women....beautiful......
PRAYER
Lift up our eyes
and watch us where we go
And help us to be wise
In times when we dont know.....
Let this be our prayer
As we go our way
Lead us to a place
Guide us with your grace
To a place where we'll be safe.
I pray we'll find your light
And hold it in our hearts.
When stars go out each night
Remind us where you are.
Let this be our prayer
When shadows fill our day
Lead us to a place
Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe
We ask that life be kind
And watch us from above
We hope each soul will find
Another soul to love
Let this be our prayer
Just like every child
Needs to find a place
Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe
Need to find a place
Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe
Beautiful...just beautiful....
PRAYER
Lift up our eyes
and watch us where we go
And help us to be wise
In times when we dont know.....
Let this be our prayer
As we go our way
Lead us to a place
Guide us with your grace
To a place where we'll be safe.
I pray we'll find your light
And hold it in our hearts.
When stars go out each night
Remind us where you are.
Let this be our prayer
When shadows fill our day
Lead us to a place
Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe
We ask that life be kind
And watch us from above
We hope each soul will find
Another soul to love
Let this be our prayer
Just like every child
Needs to find a place
Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe
Need to find a place
Guide us with your grace
Give us faith so we'll be safe
Beautiful...just beautiful....
Sunday, November 26, 2006
A Thankful Day
Well I hope everyone out there had a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday :)
I woke up earlier than the kids and dh as I was off to help with preparing the dinner at Granmaws & Granpaws. Most of the extended family weren't going to be there -so I had agreed to go in a bit earlier and help in any way I could. ;)Okay you all can stop laughing now-he-he;)But I really wanted to help as much as I could so I loaded up Flamingo and Monkey boy and away we went.
Papa and Nana were there and that breathtaking smell hit me as we all walked in. Nan had been up since dawn I imagine getting things ready, so I helped when ever they needed an extra hand. I know it was a lot of work for Nana and Granmaw-they did such a wonderful job and the turkey and everything was scrumshious :) It was wonderful to see Nana and Papa. We have all missed them so much since they have moved. I just wish we could have spent more time with them while they were here.
The kids were all decked out in their new outfits from Grami. They looked so cute. When Stinger came with dh I was so impressed with how he looked -so grown up. Grami usually buys them all matching outfits, but she said that Stinger has gotten older and it is harder to find matching outfits in his size now. So she had bought him some cargo pants and a blue/white checkered shirt with a green vest pullover sweater. MY...... He did look smart....So grown up...Sigh.......
Everyone was so well behaved and I couldn't have been more thankful to have such a wonderful family and be surrounded by so much love at that table. My eyes start to tear up just thinking how blessed I am.
I know at times on here I sound like such a drag. Complaining and worrying is what I have become very good at. But sitting around that table-I realized what is important-what has always been important and should be the most important thing in my life. The love and support of family. How blessed we each are. Papa said a very special prayer and it was beautiful. Mentioned everything we should be thankful for, yet often don't think twice abt. I know I for one, was bowing my head in shame at that moment-realizing how I have let worries and selfishness engross my heart all to often lately.
Thank you Papa for reminding us all how lucky and fortunate we all are and how our hearts should be so thankful of all of our blessings each and every day.
I'm going to list my blessings: Hey C-I'm tagging you to do the same;)(hey we both have no clue how this works-right) LOLOLOL So you count yours too and post them-eh? I know its going to help me see how truly blessed I am......
1. My love I have for the Lord and knowing I am His for always
2. The Word for which is my guide and beacon to live by
3. My hard working,loving,devoted husband
4. My children who are fashioned perfectly in the will of their Father
5. My Dad and Mom who give unselfishly always
6. My Grandparents who show me that love and devotion truly can last forever
7. My friends who give me strength to carry on when times are dark
8. My humble house which I call home
9. My health and that of my family and friends
10. My country whom many have fought and died for
There are MANY, Many, Many MANY blessings we each should be thankful for. I hope you each had a wonderful THANKSgiving Holiday. You are all in my hearts and prayers{{HUGS}}
One of my all time favorite hymn songs:
"When upon life's billows you are tempest tossed
When you are discouraged thinking all is lost
Count you many blessings angels will attend
Help and comfort give you till your journeys end."
"Count your blessings name them one by one
Count your blessings see what God hath done.
Count your blessings
Name them one by one
Count your many blessings see what God hath done."
T
I woke up earlier than the kids and dh as I was off to help with preparing the dinner at Granmaws & Granpaws. Most of the extended family weren't going to be there -so I had agreed to go in a bit earlier and help in any way I could. ;)Okay you all can stop laughing now-he-he;)But I really wanted to help as much as I could so I loaded up Flamingo and Monkey boy and away we went.
Papa and Nana were there and that breathtaking smell hit me as we all walked in. Nan had been up since dawn I imagine getting things ready, so I helped when ever they needed an extra hand. I know it was a lot of work for Nana and Granmaw-they did such a wonderful job and the turkey and everything was scrumshious :) It was wonderful to see Nana and Papa. We have all missed them so much since they have moved. I just wish we could have spent more time with them while they were here.
The kids were all decked out in their new outfits from Grami. They looked so cute. When Stinger came with dh I was so impressed with how he looked -so grown up. Grami usually buys them all matching outfits, but she said that Stinger has gotten older and it is harder to find matching outfits in his size now. So she had bought him some cargo pants and a blue/white checkered shirt with a green vest pullover sweater. MY...... He did look smart....So grown up...Sigh.......
Everyone was so well behaved and I couldn't have been more thankful to have such a wonderful family and be surrounded by so much love at that table. My eyes start to tear up just thinking how blessed I am.
I know at times on here I sound like such a drag. Complaining and worrying is what I have become very good at. But sitting around that table-I realized what is important-what has always been important and should be the most important thing in my life. The love and support of family. How blessed we each are. Papa said a very special prayer and it was beautiful. Mentioned everything we should be thankful for, yet often don't think twice abt. I know I for one, was bowing my head in shame at that moment-realizing how I have let worries and selfishness engross my heart all to often lately.
Thank you Papa for reminding us all how lucky and fortunate we all are and how our hearts should be so thankful of all of our blessings each and every day.
I'm going to list my blessings: Hey C-I'm tagging you to do the same;)(hey we both have no clue how this works-right) LOLOLOL So you count yours too and post them-eh? I know its going to help me see how truly blessed I am......
1. My love I have for the Lord and knowing I am His for always
2. The Word for which is my guide and beacon to live by
3. My hard working,loving,devoted husband
4. My children who are fashioned perfectly in the will of their Father
5. My Dad and Mom who give unselfishly always
6. My Grandparents who show me that love and devotion truly can last forever
7. My friends who give me strength to carry on when times are dark
8. My humble house which I call home
9. My health and that of my family and friends
10. My country whom many have fought and died for
There are MANY, Many, Many MANY blessings we each should be thankful for. I hope you each had a wonderful THANKSgiving Holiday. You are all in my hearts and prayers{{HUGS}}
One of my all time favorite hymn songs:
"When upon life's billows you are tempest tossed
When you are discouraged thinking all is lost
Count you many blessings angels will attend
Help and comfort give you till your journeys end."
"Count your blessings name them one by one
Count your blessings see what God hath done.
Count your blessings
Name them one by one
Count your many blessings see what God hath done."
T
Sunday, November 19, 2006
A Great Night!
WEll we had the 2nd grade performance tonight.
I had called teacher and had been asking how he was doing with the practises. Two day ago the lady who was supposed to be there(I later learned) for him wasnt there and he escalated to climbing on things, running away etc. But he did a great job at rehearsal on Thursday so I hoped he would do well that night.
Dh wasnt going to be able to make it. So It was just going to be me, Flamingo and Monkey boy. I was expecting an interesting night.
We get there abt 20 min early and all the kids are lining up on the stage-not Stinger-He wants to stay with us till the last minute-okay. He then goes up there without saying bye or anything and stands in his spot.
He starts messing with his collar agn and agn-a collar that never bothers him, and starts to rub his eyes. I could tell he was sooooo uncomforteable and yet he kept going strong-what a trooper-eh?
The kids were all so animated and smiling and laughing. As I was gazing ard them I notice that Stinger is the only one not joining in on this fun. NO hand movements, no clapping, no shouting etc. He actually looked like someone had a gun to his back the entire time. I could tell he was trying soo hard and was just soo nervous.
Mr X (Stingers spec ed teacher)had stated that Stinger was just soo excited abt this and that he was soo happy we would be coming. He had promised to Mr X that he would make good choices. One night he was goofing ard and wouldnt concentrate on what I was saying to him and I told him that we just might not be able to go-not him or anybody. Stinger actually broke down and cried-I had had no idea it meant so much to him and regretted threatening him like that. But anyway He sooo wanted to be apart of this performace, but you sure wouldnt have guessed that by the look on his face that night.
I had a smile on my face I think the entire time as not once was there ANY behavior issue!!!!I was so proud!!!!!!
The program finished (abt an hour)and Stinger came off the stage and was sooo proud of himself and was all smiles and hugs to me. It was wonderful to have seen him try so hard to keep it together, had kept it together beautifully , and was now proud he had done it. Wonderful!!!!
Of course we ended the night with icecream! A tradition that we have kept from my parents.
Stinger ended the night by telling me as I tucked him in that "It was ethe best day ever wasnt it Mom? " :) :) :)
I know he got this from the Sponge Bob movie we had just watched a day before. But it never sounded so sweet as it was coming out of his mouth that night. There is no doubt in my mind he had sweet dreams that night..........
I had called teacher and had been asking how he was doing with the practises. Two day ago the lady who was supposed to be there(I later learned) for him wasnt there and he escalated to climbing on things, running away etc. But he did a great job at rehearsal on Thursday so I hoped he would do well that night.
Dh wasnt going to be able to make it. So It was just going to be me, Flamingo and Monkey boy. I was expecting an interesting night.
We get there abt 20 min early and all the kids are lining up on the stage-not Stinger-He wants to stay with us till the last minute-okay. He then goes up there without saying bye or anything and stands in his spot.
He starts messing with his collar agn and agn-a collar that never bothers him, and starts to rub his eyes. I could tell he was sooooo uncomforteable and yet he kept going strong-what a trooper-eh?
The kids were all so animated and smiling and laughing. As I was gazing ard them I notice that Stinger is the only one not joining in on this fun. NO hand movements, no clapping, no shouting etc. He actually looked like someone had a gun to his back the entire time. I could tell he was trying soo hard and was just soo nervous.
Mr X (Stingers spec ed teacher)had stated that Stinger was just soo excited abt this and that he was soo happy we would be coming. He had promised to Mr X that he would make good choices. One night he was goofing ard and wouldnt concentrate on what I was saying to him and I told him that we just might not be able to go-not him or anybody. Stinger actually broke down and cried-I had had no idea it meant so much to him and regretted threatening him like that. But anyway He sooo wanted to be apart of this performace, but you sure wouldnt have guessed that by the look on his face that night.
I had a smile on my face I think the entire time as not once was there ANY behavior issue!!!!I was so proud!!!!!!
The program finished (abt an hour)and Stinger came off the stage and was sooo proud of himself and was all smiles and hugs to me. It was wonderful to have seen him try so hard to keep it together, had kept it together beautifully , and was now proud he had done it. Wonderful!!!!
Of course we ended the night with icecream! A tradition that we have kept from my parents.
Stinger ended the night by telling me as I tucked him in that "It was ethe best day ever wasnt it Mom? " :) :) :)
I know he got this from the Sponge Bob movie we had just watched a day before. But it never sounded so sweet as it was coming out of his mouth that night. There is no doubt in my mind he had sweet dreams that night..........
Tuesday, November 07, 2006
Bumpidy Bump Bump...sheesh......
Can you say Sheesh.........???? I just got back from consoling and checking on Monkey Boy. Flamingo and Monkey Boy were goofing ard downstairs and I hear this
-BUMP-. Then an ear piercing scream. It sounded like Monkey, and yes, hes been bumping into things agn. But this scream.........these screams freak me out. It was the type where holding your breathe and trying to let noise come out kinda deal. Past experiance tells me its not a good sound......
So I rush downstairs and see a HUGE knot on Monkey's head above his eye. So we get some ice in a washcloth and lie down. Its now purple and hes not wanting to eat. But his eyes look okay and hes not puking*knock on wood**crossing fingers and toes* Hes acting normal-just not eating his lunch. I dont know if thats the bump talking or him just being Monkey Boy-LOLOLOL
So I will be keeping an eye on him today......but talk abt scary. I just hate bumps like that and screams that go with them. I think its the scariest sound coming from any of my kids.....sigh.......You hate the sound, yet while its happening you keep telling yourself"okay keep making that noise!!!!" because that noise means things are OKAY!!!!kwim? Flamingo has had a few of them-but I dont even like to talk abt those incidents, but thats probably why I freak when I hear it as I remember those times with her. I REALLY freak!LOLOLOLOL But it looks like things are okay.....now.
We FINALLY have a fridge agn! YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:)
Who could have thought something could be such a luxury-LOLOLOLOL. But Im tickled pink!!!!To have one back. We ended up getting a freezer on top one-not a side by side. Dh says that the older it is the better as the new compressors in the new ones are only good for abt 5-6 yrs. So hopefully this one will last a bit longer*knocking agn* LOLOLOLOL It was getting to be a real drag changing ice packs ard everything-LOLOLOL. I thought I coudl handle it, but no, I started missing my fridge. I was even going back into my wonderings if I COULD live off the grid-but I think I would be a sorry case-LOLOLOLOL
Flamingo has Girl Scouts agn tonight. She is supposed to bring old toys that they are going to donate. I had to keep a watchful eye on this process ...LOLOLOL She just kept wanting to give away her favorite pink things as she knew some girl would just love them. She is so tender hearted and so giving. But she should have fun tonight. Me and the boys will proabably be going to the park-as it is pretty nice today(gotta use them while they last-eh?)
Winter is just ard the corner and Im starting to feel it already in the air. Its WONDERFUL-my fav time of the year. Strange as I hate Hate HATE!!!being cold. But I love the winter season and the feelings of happinesss that seam to radiate everywhere and through everything-I LOVE IT!!!!!! :)I even enjoy scraping snow off the pavement-crazy I know-LOLOLOL I smell fireplaces and my nose burns-Its BLISS for me!!!Good thing Im so goofy as winters here seam to last for awhile-LOLOLOLOLOL
-BUMP-. Then an ear piercing scream. It sounded like Monkey, and yes, hes been bumping into things agn. But this scream.........these screams freak me out. It was the type where holding your breathe and trying to let noise come out kinda deal. Past experiance tells me its not a good sound......
So I rush downstairs and see a HUGE knot on Monkey's head above his eye. So we get some ice in a washcloth and lie down. Its now purple and hes not wanting to eat. But his eyes look okay and hes not puking*knock on wood**crossing fingers and toes* Hes acting normal-just not eating his lunch. I dont know if thats the bump talking or him just being Monkey Boy-LOLOLOL
So I will be keeping an eye on him today......but talk abt scary. I just hate bumps like that and screams that go with them. I think its the scariest sound coming from any of my kids.....sigh.......You hate the sound, yet while its happening you keep telling yourself"okay keep making that noise!!!!" because that noise means things are OKAY!!!!kwim? Flamingo has had a few of them-but I dont even like to talk abt those incidents, but thats probably why I freak when I hear it as I remember those times with her. I REALLY freak!LOLOLOLOL But it looks like things are okay.....now.
We FINALLY have a fridge agn! YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:)
Who could have thought something could be such a luxury-LOLOLOLOL. But Im tickled pink!!!!To have one back. We ended up getting a freezer on top one-not a side by side. Dh says that the older it is the better as the new compressors in the new ones are only good for abt 5-6 yrs. So hopefully this one will last a bit longer*knocking agn* LOLOLOLOL It was getting to be a real drag changing ice packs ard everything-LOLOLOL. I thought I coudl handle it, but no, I started missing my fridge. I was even going back into my wonderings if I COULD live off the grid-but I think I would be a sorry case-LOLOLOLOL
Flamingo has Girl Scouts agn tonight. She is supposed to bring old toys that they are going to donate. I had to keep a watchful eye on this process ...LOLOLOL She just kept wanting to give away her favorite pink things as she knew some girl would just love them. She is so tender hearted and so giving. But she should have fun tonight. Me and the boys will proabably be going to the park-as it is pretty nice today(gotta use them while they last-eh?)
Winter is just ard the corner and Im starting to feel it already in the air. Its WONDERFUL-my fav time of the year. Strange as I hate Hate HATE!!!being cold. But I love the winter season and the feelings of happinesss that seam to radiate everywhere and through everything-I LOVE IT!!!!!! :)I even enjoy scraping snow off the pavement-crazy I know-LOLOLOL I smell fireplaces and my nose burns-Its BLISS for me!!!Good thing Im so goofy as winters here seam to last for awhile-LOLOLOLOLOL
Monday, October 30, 2006
A Little Recap......okay we all know its NOT going to be little;)
I have beeen OHHHHHHHHHHH so slacking on this blog-or so I have been told-LOLOL;)
I had the intentions of writting in her abt every three days or so...so Im going to try and do better. I just havent been spending that much time on here now that things are calm ard here for a change....
Ive been trying to do my daily Bible devotions, been reading alot, been chilling at night-with my English sitcoms, and have been trying to start my cleaning routine that I havent been keeping up to par. Its actually been very nice. At first I felt annoyed with nothing to do as reseaching and worrying have been my norm for sooo long-but Im gradually finding my groove agn. Things crop up every now and then at school-but they are minor and then we just try and move forward-kwim?
So anyway.......FRIDAY:
Stinger and I went to the theatrical production of James and The Giant Peach. It was LOADS of fun. I went as a helper with the class. I was pretty nervous as Stinger has never been inside a theatrical place before-and I was unsure of how he would react to things and how quiet he would be able to sit. The 3rd grades and 4th grades also went and were sitting right behind us. Stinger was by far the best behaved child there. I couldnt have been more proud!!!! Twice he looked at me with a big smile on his face and said "This is fun." I KNOW he enjoyed it. I think at times the actors talked to quickly for him to really understand what they were saying -but in the theatre every emotion is WAY exagerated and he pretty much could totally understand what they were doing-which was fantastic. I even noticed the 3rd and 4th graders in back of us were soooo noisey-they were actually very annoying-but it was hard not to still bask in Stingers delight. After it was done he hugged me and told me "Thanks for coming with me Mom." So it was wonderful and a wonderful experiance. :)
Friday was also Flamingo's B-day-which they celebrated at school. Each child draws the B-day child a card-and they were awful cute :) Flamingo also got to wear a shiny B-day hat all day long-which Im sure she loved. She handed out her treats that she had brought and said the girls really liked them-LOLOLOL;) She had brought Polly Pocket fruit snacks. But was kind of dissapointed there were no left overs-LOLOLOL. But I had bought an extra box waiting for her at home-LOLOLOL.
Sunday we as a family celebrated Flamingos B-day. We woke her up, well she woke us up-LOLOL, bright and early and we made her go back into her room so we could sing to her-ha-ha! Does this bring back memories Nana and Papa??LOLOLOL Then we opened up her presents. Flamingos big thing right now is Strawberry Shortcake and Pets Shop. How Grandparents remember these things I have no idea-but she was VERY happy with these presents from her Grandparents :)So we finished opening her presents then had her breakfast. She had requested berry muffins with bacon and eggs. So she really liked that-it was quite nummy. Then we all went down to watch her Dancing Princesses movie. Im sure this was the highlight of Daddys day-LOLOLOL. We ordered Pizza then had cake-which of course had pink frosting. Flamingo had a time blowing out her candles-I had spread them out and I think she didnt like that too much-as she didnt want to get too close;)But she ate every bite of her cake-:0
Then it was off to bed and a good snuggle in with all her B-day treasures ard her-too funny to even write abt-LOLOLOL. But Im sure made for very happy dreams that night :)
Tomorrow is Halloween. Kids at school are supposed to dress up as animals-I guess they want to stay away from the scary costumes and such. Flamingo is going as a black cat-all dressed in black. Im going to do her hair up in black ponies too to look like ears and am going to paint her face cute too. The closest Stinger is coming is his pumpkin shirt-he doesnt want any part of dressing up-he doesnt want to be looked at. Which reminds me of something another Mom told me:
Stinger still wont wear any of his new school clothes:( But another Mom who's child is alot like Stinger says its a matter of not wearing something that will call attention to her child if hes wearing it. So I think thats what it is with Stinger as well. Which would make sense as all his shirts I got were what I would call "cool" but man-who knows what is "cool" these days. ???????LOLOL But they are pretty loud-kwim-but he said he liked them at the store, but when it comes to wearing them-its a no deal.....I think its a matter of anyone looking at him-which he thinks they would do with this type of thing-goes for pants too, etc-ask me how I know-LOLOL. Makes sense though doesnt it? I just wish I had thought abt this sooner-would have saved some frustrations on my part-but live and learn. So not wearing a costume is no surprise-and its no biggie I guess.
I think what I struggle with is thinking he isnt okay with something-that he feels different, when in actuality he could care less and isnt bothered abt not doing what everyone else is doing. He's happy abt things just as they are-so I should be too. This is hard though to remember and wrap my brain ard, I tend to push him-but Im working on it. I guess I struggle with knowing when to push and when to just let it go-kwim? I mean how much is too much, and how isolated do I let him be if he is content and happy to be this way? Like the hours he INSISTS on spending in his bedroom after school, the times he WANTS to be alone?????I just dont know the answers to these questions........maybee never will :(???????
I had the intentions of writting in her abt every three days or so...so Im going to try and do better. I just havent been spending that much time on here now that things are calm ard here for a change....
Ive been trying to do my daily Bible devotions, been reading alot, been chilling at night-with my English sitcoms, and have been trying to start my cleaning routine that I havent been keeping up to par. Its actually been very nice. At first I felt annoyed with nothing to do as reseaching and worrying have been my norm for sooo long-but Im gradually finding my groove agn. Things crop up every now and then at school-but they are minor and then we just try and move forward-kwim?
So anyway.......FRIDAY:
Stinger and I went to the theatrical production of James and The Giant Peach. It was LOADS of fun. I went as a helper with the class. I was pretty nervous as Stinger has never been inside a theatrical place before-and I was unsure of how he would react to things and how quiet he would be able to sit. The 3rd grades and 4th grades also went and were sitting right behind us. Stinger was by far the best behaved child there. I couldnt have been more proud!!!! Twice he looked at me with a big smile on his face and said "This is fun." I KNOW he enjoyed it. I think at times the actors talked to quickly for him to really understand what they were saying -but in the theatre every emotion is WAY exagerated and he pretty much could totally understand what they were doing-which was fantastic. I even noticed the 3rd and 4th graders in back of us were soooo noisey-they were actually very annoying-but it was hard not to still bask in Stingers delight. After it was done he hugged me and told me "Thanks for coming with me Mom." So it was wonderful and a wonderful experiance. :)
Friday was also Flamingo's B-day-which they celebrated at school. Each child draws the B-day child a card-and they were awful cute :) Flamingo also got to wear a shiny B-day hat all day long-which Im sure she loved. She handed out her treats that she had brought and said the girls really liked them-LOLOLOL;) She had brought Polly Pocket fruit snacks. But was kind of dissapointed there were no left overs-LOLOLOL. But I had bought an extra box waiting for her at home-LOLOLOL.
Sunday we as a family celebrated Flamingos B-day. We woke her up, well she woke us up-LOLOL, bright and early and we made her go back into her room so we could sing to her-ha-ha! Does this bring back memories Nana and Papa??LOLOLOL Then we opened up her presents. Flamingos big thing right now is Strawberry Shortcake and Pets Shop. How Grandparents remember these things I have no idea-but she was VERY happy with these presents from her Grandparents :)So we finished opening her presents then had her breakfast. She had requested berry muffins with bacon and eggs. So she really liked that-it was quite nummy. Then we all went down to watch her Dancing Princesses movie. Im sure this was the highlight of Daddys day-LOLOLOL. We ordered Pizza then had cake-which of course had pink frosting. Flamingo had a time blowing out her candles-I had spread them out and I think she didnt like that too much-as she didnt want to get too close;)But she ate every bite of her cake-:0
Then it was off to bed and a good snuggle in with all her B-day treasures ard her-too funny to even write abt-LOLOLOL. But Im sure made for very happy dreams that night :)
Tomorrow is Halloween. Kids at school are supposed to dress up as animals-I guess they want to stay away from the scary costumes and such. Flamingo is going as a black cat-all dressed in black. Im going to do her hair up in black ponies too to look like ears and am going to paint her face cute too. The closest Stinger is coming is his pumpkin shirt-he doesnt want any part of dressing up-he doesnt want to be looked at. Which reminds me of something another Mom told me:
Stinger still wont wear any of his new school clothes:( But another Mom who's child is alot like Stinger says its a matter of not wearing something that will call attention to her child if hes wearing it. So I think thats what it is with Stinger as well. Which would make sense as all his shirts I got were what I would call "cool" but man-who knows what is "cool" these days. ???????LOLOL But they are pretty loud-kwim-but he said he liked them at the store, but when it comes to wearing them-its a no deal.....I think its a matter of anyone looking at him-which he thinks they would do with this type of thing-goes for pants too, etc-ask me how I know-LOLOL. Makes sense though doesnt it? I just wish I had thought abt this sooner-would have saved some frustrations on my part-but live and learn. So not wearing a costume is no surprise-and its no biggie I guess.
I think what I struggle with is thinking he isnt okay with something-that he feels different, when in actuality he could care less and isnt bothered abt not doing what everyone else is doing. He's happy abt things just as they are-so I should be too. This is hard though to remember and wrap my brain ard, I tend to push him-but Im working on it. I guess I struggle with knowing when to push and when to just let it go-kwim? I mean how much is too much, and how isolated do I let him be if he is content and happy to be this way? Like the hours he INSISTS on spending in his bedroom after school, the times he WANTS to be alone?????I just dont know the answers to these questions........maybee never will :(???????
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Why oh Why Do I ALWAYS Have To Learn The Hard Way?????
WEll...... Yesterday was a turning point......
I wasnt keeping up on things and Stingers IEP wasnt being followed.Just goes to show-when things are quite-just like the kids-something is wrong or not right!RIGHT???LOLOLOL Have you not learned this already???LOLOL I thought we were doing sooo well..sigh....but little did I know his Speech Therapy hadnt been done AT all since the beginning of the year. He's supposed to get this 2 times a week-per IEP. Its pretty important as they are supposed to be working on eye contact, reciprical conversations, body expressions, facial expressions etc. Things Stinger really needs if he is going to want to socialize well.
I guess the Speech Therapist went into the hospital and she has been on leave this entire year!!!! And no-no one was replacing her, no one told me, I had NO idea. Until I asked Stinger how he was doing with this lady and he said he hadnt seen her???So I called the spec ed teacher and he said that it was taking longer than they had thought but that they should be getting a sub para for her next week. WEll.. next week came and went and yet no Speech still.
So I wrote the IEP commitee that I was aware of this, that Stingers IEP stated he needs this to benefit from his special education and that I knew they knew that an IEP was a Legal Document and that I was sure they were concerned abt this as much as we were.;) I requested a signiture and date and that compensatory services be started immediately. This is when they make up for missed services.
So I gave it to them and WOW! I heard back within that same day from the district, and principle and got an apoligy letter from the district and VOILA comp services started today!!!
Supposedly the paras who were supposed to have handled the Speech Therapist absents got a talkin to from the Principle also-as he had told the district this would be a problem and thought it had been dealt with a month ago when HE had brought it up.....
I went to the school today and asked for a copy of the letter and BOY-I was treated like a queen! LOLOLOL I have NEVER met such a nice principle as the one I met today. "Good Morning" -all chipper and a reminder that they would be dating and signing each and every speech therapy session-LOLOLOL
And get this: the principle told me on the phone that out of 60 kids who were getting, or supposed to be getting, Speech Therapy-I was the only one who had brought this to his attention. Now I know my nuttiness is worth every nutty look-LOLOL
So live and learn I guess-letters are the way to go my friends:) :) :)Microsoft Word I think is my new best friend-I just have this flutter feeling inside;)LOLOLOL
He-He;)LOLOLOL. We are going to be close-very close;)LOLOLOLOL
Now if only I had learned this in 2005!!!!!!
I wasnt keeping up on things and Stingers IEP wasnt being followed.Just goes to show-when things are quite-just like the kids-something is wrong or not right!RIGHT???LOLOLOL Have you not learned this already???LOLOL I thought we were doing sooo well..sigh....but little did I know his Speech Therapy hadnt been done AT all since the beginning of the year. He's supposed to get this 2 times a week-per IEP. Its pretty important as they are supposed to be working on eye contact, reciprical conversations, body expressions, facial expressions etc. Things Stinger really needs if he is going to want to socialize well.
I guess the Speech Therapist went into the hospital and she has been on leave this entire year!!!! And no-no one was replacing her, no one told me, I had NO idea. Until I asked Stinger how he was doing with this lady and he said he hadnt seen her???So I called the spec ed teacher and he said that it was taking longer than they had thought but that they should be getting a sub para for her next week. WEll.. next week came and went and yet no Speech still.
So I wrote the IEP commitee that I was aware of this, that Stingers IEP stated he needs this to benefit from his special education and that I knew they knew that an IEP was a Legal Document and that I was sure they were concerned abt this as much as we were.;) I requested a signiture and date and that compensatory services be started immediately. This is when they make up for missed services.
So I gave it to them and WOW! I heard back within that same day from the district, and principle and got an apoligy letter from the district and VOILA comp services started today!!!
Supposedly the paras who were supposed to have handled the Speech Therapist absents got a talkin to from the Principle also-as he had told the district this would be a problem and thought it had been dealt with a month ago when HE had brought it up.....
I went to the school today and asked for a copy of the letter and BOY-I was treated like a queen! LOLOLOL I have NEVER met such a nice principle as the one I met today. "Good Morning" -all chipper and a reminder that they would be dating and signing each and every speech therapy session-LOLOLOL
And get this: the principle told me on the phone that out of 60 kids who were getting, or supposed to be getting, Speech Therapy-I was the only one who had brought this to his attention. Now I know my nuttiness is worth every nutty look-LOLOL
So live and learn I guess-letters are the way to go my friends:) :) :)Microsoft Word I think is my new best friend-I just have this flutter feeling inside;)LOLOLOL
He-He;)LOLOLOL. We are going to be close-very close;)LOLOLOLOL
Now if only I had learned this in 2005!!!!!!
Tuesday, October 10, 2006
Mr. Mischevious
Tonight Stinger just cracked me up.
Last night I cooked something that I usually cook-nothing weird or out of the ordinary. But Stinger was NOT happy abt it-LOLOLOL, Hes so hard to please. Unless its a sandwich or a hotdog, or macaroni, or chicken nuggets-you can usually count on a grumble or some type of refusal and he'll go to bed hungry rather than eat.....So last nigt was no different. But he ended up eating half which is what I told him to do and got a dessert.
When I was a kid I had to finish my plate and I remember sitting up to the table for hours-okay maybee not hours, but a long time-LOLOL. I finally devised a plan and started dumping things into my milk glass. MY parenst never caught on-they did when I threw it away in the garbage-hence the milk deception was started.;)I thought it was pure genious and still do;) LOLOLOL
I was thinking about this last night watching Stinger and feeling sorry for him as they all drink with sippy straw cups down in teh TV room(to stop ANY spills)-hence no dumping into milk will take place for awhile anyway......LOLOL
So anyway....I was cleaning out the cups for tonight and washing out the straws. Something was in Stingers straw. Little bits of something kept coming out. I thought well sheesh.....I wonder what the heck is in there..... LO and behold guess what was plum full lodged into Stingers straw?????Any guesses?????YES, the half of dinner I imagine from last night.....GROSS:( LOLOLOLOL
You'd think Id be mad, but I let out a laugh at the pure genious of my son to do that.....I thought it was very clever-how could I be mad when he had thought up of something I hadn't?????It was sooo funny....and I chuckled on my way downstairs. Did I say anything-No...Ill just let that one go I guess.....
Kids-where there's a will-there's a way-eh? Unbelieveable!!!!!
Last night I cooked something that I usually cook-nothing weird or out of the ordinary. But Stinger was NOT happy abt it-LOLOLOL, Hes so hard to please. Unless its a sandwich or a hotdog, or macaroni, or chicken nuggets-you can usually count on a grumble or some type of refusal and he'll go to bed hungry rather than eat.....So last nigt was no different. But he ended up eating half which is what I told him to do and got a dessert.
When I was a kid I had to finish my plate and I remember sitting up to the table for hours-okay maybee not hours, but a long time-LOLOL. I finally devised a plan and started dumping things into my milk glass. MY parenst never caught on-they did when I threw it away in the garbage-hence the milk deception was started.;)I thought it was pure genious and still do;) LOLOLOL
I was thinking about this last night watching Stinger and feeling sorry for him as they all drink with sippy straw cups down in teh TV room(to stop ANY spills)-hence no dumping into milk will take place for awhile anyway......LOLOL
So anyway....I was cleaning out the cups for tonight and washing out the straws. Something was in Stingers straw. Little bits of something kept coming out. I thought well sheesh.....I wonder what the heck is in there..... LO and behold guess what was plum full lodged into Stingers straw?????Any guesses?????YES, the half of dinner I imagine from last night.....GROSS:( LOLOLOLOL
You'd think Id be mad, but I let out a laugh at the pure genious of my son to do that.....I thought it was very clever-how could I be mad when he had thought up of something I hadn't?????It was sooo funny....and I chuckled on my way downstairs. Did I say anything-No...Ill just let that one go I guess.....
Kids-where there's a will-there's a way-eh? Unbelieveable!!!!!
Monday, October 09, 2006
An Eiree Silence.....
Well I just realized tonight that I havent been keeping up with how the youngins' are doing at school. So I think an update is in order-especially since things are going sooo well :)
Flamingo is doing really well and is coming home with all smiles and even some extra good notes and comments on her notes home. She has her 1st field trip coming up on Wednesday. They are visiting a hospital, a pumpkin patch, a park to eat lunch and a little zoo habitat deal where they can learn abt the animals. How fun -eh? !!!! I think Im more excited than she is-is this normal???LOLOLOL. Thsi week was drug awareness at school so they can come to school dressed in different things. Today was "boot" day, tomorrow is "wacky hair" day. Dont ask me what these thinsg have to do with drug awareness-LOLOLOL-I havent the faintiest idea!!LOLOL, but its been fun-okay agn-maybee more so for me;)
"Tomorrow", Flamingo explains, "is a day I can wear my hair Pink Mom" LOLOL-so we colored it tonight just little streaks here and there and on the ends. Oh was my little princess in heaven!!!!LOLOLOL I think I caught her looking at herself in the mirror at least 3 dozen times tonight-LOLOLOL-SOOOO funny!But we will be doing her hair"wacky" and it should be interesting.......;)
Stinger-everything has been way too quite ard here lately.........I dont quiet know what to do with myself lately...-note to self-(have been wayyyyy to much overly involved)LOLOLOL;)Im just soo used to looking up things on the computer-finding out what has been exactly going on, what I dont like, how I can change it, things that I need to support my case,obsticles to overcome, laws to study and research, etc.
He is doing VERY well-is a "joy" -from teachers notes. Ist been just very unsettling to say the least;)LOLOLOL. I keep thinking, "okay this is good...but..."and I just have to stop myself and ENJOY.....LOLOLOL. But its has been a pleasant change ard here. Me not being stressed so much, dh not being stressed so much, Stinger not being stressed so much.
He's come home from school with 100 on many math worksheets lately, and I notice that they have scribbles all over them. I ask him abt them and he tells me that he was just getting frustrated, and I say "But Stinger you got them all right-Way to go!!!!!" and he says "oh, I didnt even notice... and then smiles" How interesting-eh? I dont understand that at all....? I no longer hear "Im stupid Mom", or "The other kids can do this Mom" His confidence has shot way up :) Im so happy abt that!!!I think I can do this "Eeerie Silence" thing-I quite like it just fine :)
Flamingo is doing really well and is coming home with all smiles and even some extra good notes and comments on her notes home. She has her 1st field trip coming up on Wednesday. They are visiting a hospital, a pumpkin patch, a park to eat lunch and a little zoo habitat deal where they can learn abt the animals. How fun -eh? !!!! I think Im more excited than she is-is this normal???LOLOLOL. Thsi week was drug awareness at school so they can come to school dressed in different things. Today was "boot" day, tomorrow is "wacky hair" day. Dont ask me what these thinsg have to do with drug awareness-LOLOLOL-I havent the faintiest idea!!LOLOL, but its been fun-okay agn-maybee more so for me;)
"Tomorrow", Flamingo explains, "is a day I can wear my hair Pink Mom" LOLOL-so we colored it tonight just little streaks here and there and on the ends. Oh was my little princess in heaven!!!!LOLOLOL I think I caught her looking at herself in the mirror at least 3 dozen times tonight-LOLOLOL-SOOOO funny!But we will be doing her hair"wacky" and it should be interesting.......;)
Stinger-everything has been way too quite ard here lately.........I dont quiet know what to do with myself lately...-note to self-(have been wayyyyy to much overly involved)LOLOLOL;)Im just soo used to looking up things on the computer-finding out what has been exactly going on, what I dont like, how I can change it, things that I need to support my case,obsticles to overcome, laws to study and research, etc.
He is doing VERY well-is a "joy" -from teachers notes. Ist been just very unsettling to say the least;)LOLOLOL. I keep thinking, "okay this is good...but..."and I just have to stop myself and ENJOY.....LOLOLOL. But its has been a pleasant change ard here. Me not being stressed so much, dh not being stressed so much, Stinger not being stressed so much.
He's come home from school with 100 on many math worksheets lately, and I notice that they have scribbles all over them. I ask him abt them and he tells me that he was just getting frustrated, and I say "But Stinger you got them all right-Way to go!!!!!" and he says "oh, I didnt even notice... and then smiles" How interesting-eh? I dont understand that at all....? I no longer hear "Im stupid Mom", or "The other kids can do this Mom" His confidence has shot way up :) Im so happy abt that!!!I think I can do this "Eeerie Silence" thing-I quite like it just fine :)
The Fun Season Begins :)
Well as every child is aware and every adult I imagine too-LOLOL;) Its that time of year agn: First its the spooky Halloween arrival- carving the pumpkins watching and talking about trick or treating, Second the stuffing your turkey belly-fun family gatherings were everyone eats and eats and eats, and last MY FAVORITE-Tis the Season to be Jolly-Christmas :)
This weekend we went all went out looking for costumes. Flamingo of course chose a tinker-belle outfit-AGAIN! LOLOLOLOL, ist different from lastyear, but basically the same. I did get her some body glitter and pink spray to have her hair her fav color-she was just excstatic abt this.....Stinger......well he took FOREVER trying to find his bee costume-and you know it just wasnt there -of course :( No pilice men either :( He walked ard fro a good half hour refusing to accept this fact......BUt I HAVE figured him out a little-its all in the accessories-LOLOL. We finally agreed to a soldiers outfit-green-loaded with a phone, hat, grenade, canteen, knife - the works-and he was satisfied. Monkey boy just wanted everything, and then changed his mind and wanted to be a soldier too, like his brother. So he is a soldier as well-but its a light blue ish. Which reminds me that I need to go and get some face paint that I forgot.......
They are all excited and we had a fun time picking them out-now the really fun part-waiting! LOLOLOL
Everyday I hear and am asked "how many days Mom???!!!!"And every day I realise just how much fun these times really are and how I will surely miss them.....
This weekend we went all went out looking for costumes. Flamingo of course chose a tinker-belle outfit-AGAIN! LOLOLOLOL, ist different from lastyear, but basically the same. I did get her some body glitter and pink spray to have her hair her fav color-she was just excstatic abt this.....Stinger......well he took FOREVER trying to find his bee costume-and you know it just wasnt there -of course :( No pilice men either :( He walked ard fro a good half hour refusing to accept this fact......BUt I HAVE figured him out a little-its all in the accessories-LOLOL. We finally agreed to a soldiers outfit-green-loaded with a phone, hat, grenade, canteen, knife - the works-and he was satisfied. Monkey boy just wanted everything, and then changed his mind and wanted to be a soldier too, like his brother. So he is a soldier as well-but its a light blue ish. Which reminds me that I need to go and get some face paint that I forgot.......
They are all excited and we had a fun time picking them out-now the really fun part-waiting! LOLOLOL
Everyday I hear and am asked "how many days Mom???!!!!"And every day I realise just how much fun these times really are and how I will surely miss them.....
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Just As It "Should" Be
I completely forgot to update this blog on Flamingos meeting.....
I looooooove her teacher:)She treats EVERY child as an individual-which is as it "should" be. Flamingo is doing very well-picking up things that she just wasnt interested in doing at home-I guess having a bunch of gaggling giggly girls ard will do wonders-eh? ;)LOLOLOL
She pointed out that since she is a lefty that she needs help in resting her hand down and positioning her pencil "just the right way" LOLOLOL-must be a teacher deal-as I had never even noticed this.....but Flamingo is now writing her name and positioning her pencil correctly and beautifully-:)
She did mention that for 3 weeks now Flamingo isnt getting her book out when she comes into the clasroom-like the other kids. I really didnt see the problem, but Teacher thinks this is a big deal, and hasnt quiet understood what is going on. We brainstormed a little abt it, both of us just have no idea-so Ive just been reminding Flamingo before she gets on the bus each morning to get out her school work and go to her desk. I guess this is supposed to be individual work and Flamingo just gets lost at this time. SO anyway, we have been working on this with reminders.
The meeting went really well and was REALLY short-havent had one of those in a LONG........ time-LOLOLOL, it was sweet and nice-just as it "should" be ;)LOLOLOL
I looooooove her teacher:)She treats EVERY child as an individual-which is as it "should" be. Flamingo is doing very well-picking up things that she just wasnt interested in doing at home-I guess having a bunch of gaggling giggly girls ard will do wonders-eh? ;)LOLOLOL
She pointed out that since she is a lefty that she needs help in resting her hand down and positioning her pencil "just the right way" LOLOLOL-must be a teacher deal-as I had never even noticed this.....but Flamingo is now writing her name and positioning her pencil correctly and beautifully-:)
She did mention that for 3 weeks now Flamingo isnt getting her book out when she comes into the clasroom-like the other kids. I really didnt see the problem, but Teacher thinks this is a big deal, and hasnt quiet understood what is going on. We brainstormed a little abt it, both of us just have no idea-so Ive just been reminding Flamingo before she gets on the bus each morning to get out her school work and go to her desk. I guess this is supposed to be individual work and Flamingo just gets lost at this time. SO anyway, we have been working on this with reminders.
The meeting went really well and was REALLY short-havent had one of those in a LONG........ time-LOLOLOL, it was sweet and nice-just as it "should" be ;)LOLOLOL
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Hmmmmmmmmm......
MOM-NOS posted something on her blog today that just hit me right in the gut. I think Im going to be changing a couple of things on my blog here tonight.....Its still me-but Im going to be changing a couple of things...From now on Im going to be writing about our Journey into the "Jungle" LOLOL;)
OKay....#1 is going to be Stinger-you only get one guess who this is-LOLOLOL
#2 is going to be pink Flamingo-yeah shes got the grace and beauty there,LOLOL but she is just also sooo FASCINATED to the point of driving me crazy with her"pink"
#3 is my little monkey-such a happy little guy-clowning and running ard in circles to make YOU dizzy just watching ;)
Anyway welcome to my little world of adventure :)
OKay....#1 is going to be Stinger-you only get one guess who this is-LOLOLOL
#2 is going to be pink Flamingo-yeah shes got the grace and beauty there,LOLOL but she is just also sooo FASCINATED to the point of driving me crazy with her"pink"
#3 is my little monkey-such a happy little guy-clowning and running ard in circles to make YOU dizzy just watching ;)
Anyway welcome to my little world of adventure :)
Parent/Teacher Conference Time once more...
Well today was Stingers conference with his teacher. We went over a couple of test scores etc-district class assessments. Stinger has improved sooo much in just a short time this year...His Math scores were unbelieveable-some he scored 100%-way above the average-shapes, sequencing, add and subtract) That sure made him proud of himself. Math was something he sooooo struggled with last year-getting so frustrated-and then giving up and not completing it. Total change this year :)But litte did we all know that he just needed a little help to get that knowlege out.....WHAT A CHANGE :)One thing that I think is interesting is that he is still insisting on using a number line and one of the goals we agreed on was that he would start to learn a counting method instead-be it hands etc, counting up from the started number etc. He seams stuck on this number line-so we are going to have to work on this.....I think its all a matter of him trusting something different and new-kwim? We just need to reinforce that it doenst change the answer-he'll still get it right ;)
Spelling and Writing we still need to work on as he is still quiet below his peers. His teacher actually defended his work on the wall saying that it didnt look like much of a sentence, but that he had done all the work himself and she was ecstatic abt it :) She said some REALLY nice things at the meeting. Stinger is sure lucky to have gotten her this year. I know I have been pretty hard on her at times, but I still feel that she is one of those teachers that you are oh so lucky to have.....
The spec ed teacher was there as well-emphasising how important it is whenever Stinger pokes or pushes-immediate timeout(we have settled on a chair instead*rolls eyes*) should be inforced, and I could tell that his regular teacher doesnt always inforce this-she stated that she hated to have Stinger missout on things in the classroom. Did I say how wonderful she is turning out to be for Stinger? LOLOLOL Then the two "talked and agreed";) how important it is for Stinger to stay in there as much as possible-LOLOLOL
She asked me if I would like a detailed report on the testing(no one has ever asked me that before)as I could see what needed to be worked on etc. I was all for that :)
So the meeting went extremelly well and I feel like she and I are totally on the same page here. She stated again how pleased she has been with Stinger-that they do have off days, but then he is right on track again-making sure his deask is straightend and tidy(WOW) and she loves having him in her class...:)
Flamingo's meeting is tomorrow and I will update on hers then......
Spelling and Writing we still need to work on as he is still quiet below his peers. His teacher actually defended his work on the wall saying that it didnt look like much of a sentence, but that he had done all the work himself and she was ecstatic abt it :) She said some REALLY nice things at the meeting. Stinger is sure lucky to have gotten her this year. I know I have been pretty hard on her at times, but I still feel that she is one of those teachers that you are oh so lucky to have.....
The spec ed teacher was there as well-emphasising how important it is whenever Stinger pokes or pushes-immediate timeout(we have settled on a chair instead*rolls eyes*) should be inforced, and I could tell that his regular teacher doesnt always inforce this-she stated that she hated to have Stinger missout on things in the classroom. Did I say how wonderful she is turning out to be for Stinger? LOLOLOL Then the two "talked and agreed";) how important it is for Stinger to stay in there as much as possible-LOLOLOL
She asked me if I would like a detailed report on the testing(no one has ever asked me that before)as I could see what needed to be worked on etc. I was all for that :)
So the meeting went extremelly well and I feel like she and I are totally on the same page here. She stated again how pleased she has been with Stinger-that they do have off days, but then he is right on track again-making sure his deask is straightend and tidy(WOW) and she loves having him in her class...:)
Flamingo's meeting is tomorrow and I will update on hers then......
Monday, September 25, 2006
Darned if I do...Darned if I dont.......
Okay well as most of you know I had my IEP team meeting last Monday.....I havent written abt it as I was torn all this week abt what went on and how I should proceed next. Ive been writting and getting facts and advice from everyone I can think of-and I have come to the conclusion that either of the outcomes are NOT good-in essence Im messed with no matter what I go with....
The MEETING:
Well I had my agenda-the school had theirs-as usual. My BIG issue was getting the timeout room-GONE!!!!I heard every line you could possible dream up-but my personal favorite was when the spec ed teacher said he felt he needed it for his OWN safety from Stinger!!!!OKay is it just me-or does this sound REDICULOUS!!! The ONE person on the team whom I thought was on my side-showed his true colors and I am not at ALL pleased.....Let me explain a little:
Stinger has impulse issues-a poke here, a tug of hair there. These have been a constant problem-when he is frustrated, when someone is too close to him etc. These impulse behaviors are just that-impulses-that he cant really control....and as soon as he has done the behavior they are GONE. Its not like Stinger is an aggresive child out to fight and beat up people-sheesh......and as far as I KNOW he has ONLY showed aggresion to the teachers etc-when they are"forcefully"(yes, their nice word for grabbing and making him)guiding him to the timeout room-hence if the timeout room WASNT THERE-it wouldnt be an issue. Is it just me or is this plan of "safety" purely ludicrous!!!
"We have timeout rooms in every school"-oh really then why was it last year you had to special order a window so you could see into this room for my child? oh I get it-every other school the parents dont care if their child is locked in a room and isnt being supervised, or better yet, the parents have NO IDEA-oh I see....UGH!!!!
Okay so that timeout room is getting difficult. As they seam to have every defense fo it-whether it be ludicrous or not-they are sticking to it.
Now-dont get me wrong-if a child is way out of control-is seriously hurting himself or others this might be neccesary-but a child poking someone with a weed at recess and going in there for 15 min-REDICULOUS!!! Its still in the emergency clause-so I guess this is what you would call an emergency.....???!!!!Timeout rooms ARE abused, parents arent given details, escalate the childs frustration, increase the anxiety, are a simple "get rid of the child", child learns to surpress feelings-having it turn into other coping bad behaviors:example-the bolting from last year)or worse depression...the list could go on and on abt what best pratices has to say abt it all....
I talked to them abt replacement behaviors-"dont want to" was the response-GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!NO sensory gadgets to keep him focused-as was suggested by the Occupational Therapist who tested Stinger. So basically they just want to punish the bahavior out of him-even though he cant help these impulses. They want a little robot that they can control. I asked them abt teaching him to ask for a break-"no". I asked them abt teaching him or giving him a card to ask for needed help-"no". So no replacement or alternate behaviors are to be taught to help HIM regulate.
Stinger isnt being watched at recesses-as is written in his IEP(legal document)he got plummeted repeatedly in the head with a soccer ball the other day from a 4th grader.....so I brought that up" well that was a one time incident and we ARE watching him"...oh okay-so I should just trust you all as you have proven in the past you can be trusted. "here's YOUR sign"LOLOLOL-hey I love that Jeff Foxworthy guy!LOLOL
So needless to say nothing was changed-everyone thinks everything is fine and I left pretty hot abt everything.....the behavior specialist wasnt even there-give me a break.....
I came home typed up a Letter of Understanding-basically what this is is restating everything that went on during the meeting and stating your case and what the schools case was and asking them if this was misunderstood to contact me back etc.
I also wrote up a PWR(Prior Written Notice)abt the timeout room. This SHOULD, I repeat, SHOULD be done by the school WHENEVER they deny or refuse something that pertains to your child getting a FAPE(free and appropriate eductation). They are suposed to detail their reasons, explain the testings they used,any other options discussed, why they rejected these, and all other factors that relate.
They are required to do this BY LAW-have they?-no, so I wrote this and printed this out too. The Disability Law Center told me to do this also....
So Ive got these two letters and they are sitting-LOLOLOL
I also have a no restraint and seclusion letter I found online which states you are and WILL not permit this treatment anytime or anywhere on your child. Which by the way these are all AVERSIVES-nothing positive has ever been proven by best practises to have any positive effect-especially with ASD children...and they ALL need a parents' okay...so I could just mail them this and be done with it.....
I know I will be awakening a sleeping lion and I just dont know if this will solve anything as I will have a whole new set of issues-and it could get REALLY hostile.....and I know they would try and change Baileys placement just to get rid of me and Stinger.....SOOooooooo I dont know what to do....DH says to wait and see if they do use the timeout room-as right now there is a first step that WAS added at this last meeting-a timeout in the resource classroom. and it might not be an issue this year....but my momma hunch (which is seldom wrong)says this is closer than we all want to admit.....
So I dont know-Im just darned if I do or darned if I dont....sigh.....
The MEETING:
Well I had my agenda-the school had theirs-as usual. My BIG issue was getting the timeout room-GONE!!!!I heard every line you could possible dream up-but my personal favorite was when the spec ed teacher said he felt he needed it for his OWN safety from Stinger!!!!OKay is it just me-or does this sound REDICULOUS!!! The ONE person on the team whom I thought was on my side-showed his true colors and I am not at ALL pleased.....Let me explain a little:
Stinger has impulse issues-a poke here, a tug of hair there. These have been a constant problem-when he is frustrated, when someone is too close to him etc. These impulse behaviors are just that-impulses-that he cant really control....and as soon as he has done the behavior they are GONE. Its not like Stinger is an aggresive child out to fight and beat up people-sheesh......and as far as I KNOW he has ONLY showed aggresion to the teachers etc-when they are"forcefully"(yes, their nice word for grabbing and making him)guiding him to the timeout room-hence if the timeout room WASNT THERE-it wouldnt be an issue. Is it just me or is this plan of "safety" purely ludicrous!!!
"We have timeout rooms in every school"-oh really then why was it last year you had to special order a window so you could see into this room for my child? oh I get it-every other school the parents dont care if their child is locked in a room and isnt being supervised, or better yet, the parents have NO IDEA-oh I see....UGH!!!!
Okay so that timeout room is getting difficult. As they seam to have every defense fo it-whether it be ludicrous or not-they are sticking to it.
Now-dont get me wrong-if a child is way out of control-is seriously hurting himself or others this might be neccesary-but a child poking someone with a weed at recess and going in there for 15 min-REDICULOUS!!! Its still in the emergency clause-so I guess this is what you would call an emergency.....???!!!!Timeout rooms ARE abused, parents arent given details, escalate the childs frustration, increase the anxiety, are a simple "get rid of the child", child learns to surpress feelings-having it turn into other coping bad behaviors:example-the bolting from last year)or worse depression...the list could go on and on abt what best pratices has to say abt it all....
I talked to them abt replacement behaviors-"dont want to" was the response-GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!NO sensory gadgets to keep him focused-as was suggested by the Occupational Therapist who tested Stinger. So basically they just want to punish the bahavior out of him-even though he cant help these impulses. They want a little robot that they can control. I asked them abt teaching him to ask for a break-"no". I asked them abt teaching him or giving him a card to ask for needed help-"no". So no replacement or alternate behaviors are to be taught to help HIM regulate.
Stinger isnt being watched at recesses-as is written in his IEP(legal document)he got plummeted repeatedly in the head with a soccer ball the other day from a 4th grader.....so I brought that up" well that was a one time incident and we ARE watching him"...oh okay-so I should just trust you all as you have proven in the past you can be trusted. "here's YOUR sign"LOLOLOL-hey I love that Jeff Foxworthy guy!LOLOL
So needless to say nothing was changed-everyone thinks everything is fine and I left pretty hot abt everything.....the behavior specialist wasnt even there-give me a break.....
I came home typed up a Letter of Understanding-basically what this is is restating everything that went on during the meeting and stating your case and what the schools case was and asking them if this was misunderstood to contact me back etc.
I also wrote up a PWR(Prior Written Notice)abt the timeout room. This SHOULD, I repeat, SHOULD be done by the school WHENEVER they deny or refuse something that pertains to your child getting a FAPE(free and appropriate eductation). They are suposed to detail their reasons, explain the testings they used,any other options discussed, why they rejected these, and all other factors that relate.
They are required to do this BY LAW-have they?-no, so I wrote this and printed this out too. The Disability Law Center told me to do this also....
So Ive got these two letters and they are sitting-LOLOLOL
I also have a no restraint and seclusion letter I found online which states you are and WILL not permit this treatment anytime or anywhere on your child. Which by the way these are all AVERSIVES-nothing positive has ever been proven by best practises to have any positive effect-especially with ASD children...and they ALL need a parents' okay...so I could just mail them this and be done with it.....
I know I will be awakening a sleeping lion and I just dont know if this will solve anything as I will have a whole new set of issues-and it could get REALLY hostile.....and I know they would try and change Baileys placement just to get rid of me and Stinger.....SOOooooooo I dont know what to do....DH says to wait and see if they do use the timeout room-as right now there is a first step that WAS added at this last meeting-a timeout in the resource classroom. and it might not be an issue this year....but my momma hunch (which is seldom wrong)says this is closer than we all want to admit.....
So I dont know-Im just darned if I do or darned if I dont....sigh.....
Monday, September 18, 2006
Im slowly going craaaazzzzyyyyyyyyy!AGH!
VENT comin' on strong...
Well I took the easy way out here.....Maybee if I vent my frustrations and feelings abt this it will just go AWAY!!!!!!!...sigh.......
Okay so littel Monkey is taking his quiet time out here with Stinger(as Stinger likes to watch a little TV before retiring to his room-its not really a quiet time now is it....well Im open for ANY suggestions here.....now we are dealing with the TWO of them-Stinger arguing that he doesnt want Monkey out here as this is HIS time-ARGH!!!
Okay-so I must tell you what the deal is with little Monkey here.....these repetative phrases.."it okay I close my eyes???!!!"I woke up bright and early at 4 AM this morning-just like I did last night and the night before, and the night before,with him crying and saying this and having a MAJOR meltdown as I wasnt there to respond to this phrase.....
Okay I didnt see this coming AT ALL-its been like this for as long as I can remember-me having to do certian things and having things just so at BEDTIME-I dealt with this with Stinger as well, so I thought it would get better???LOLOLOLand was somewhat just what I needed to do to calm him-so I did and he did-right? Well its getting worse-now its a quiet time too!!!!
This is how it goes(in case anyone wants to step into my world):
Monkey-"Goodnight Mom"
me-"Goodnight Monkey"
Monkey-"Have a goodtime on puter";)LOLOL He knows me well eh? LOLOL
me"Thank you Monkey"
Monkey-" Okay I close my eyes??!"
me-"yes Monkey, Its okay you close your eyes"
Monkey-" I love you Mom"
me-"I love you too Monkey"
Monkey-" It okay I close my eyes??"
Word for word-each and every time. And so the saga continues...after I close the door, after I go in the other room, after I go upstairs, and after I go to bed(hey I didnt say sleep did I?)....sigh....
So now its at nap(or quiet time)too....
I also forgot to prompt him to tell Daddy when he left today that(Monkey-" I have lots of firetrucks" needed to be said-so of course a meltdown and running to his room in tears-until I call Daddy and let Monkey say it yet agn.....(thsi also need to be said each and every time Dh leaves for work.
So I of course, consult the many experts of children and this is what they say:
"I have a friend who has high functioning autism and is an adult, she
says sometimes she repeats things to hear the sound of the words(she also
writes poetry and feels it is her way of communicating that works best
for her, she gets into a language flow that way). Sometimes kids repeat
things to get the same answer, because as she also says, she 'seeks
same" or predictability. These kids have so much trouble with transitions
and changes, that they seek something that will remain the same, that's
why many have repetitive behaviors, whether opening and closing things,
or repeating words and waiting for that same reassuring answer. As they
adjust to things, they may drop some questions, or not be as
anxious...just a couple reasons I have seen higher functioning kids give who can
express themselves.."
Okay so does that make me feel ANY better???????I dont think I have to answer that question........sigh....not right now anyway....sigh.....I REFUSE to think about it!!!!!!....
Well I took the easy way out here.....Maybee if I vent my frustrations and feelings abt this it will just go AWAY!!!!!!!...sigh.......
Okay so littel Monkey is taking his quiet time out here with Stinger(as Stinger likes to watch a little TV before retiring to his room-its not really a quiet time now is it....well Im open for ANY suggestions here.....now we are dealing with the TWO of them-Stinger arguing that he doesnt want Monkey out here as this is HIS time-ARGH!!!
Okay-so I must tell you what the deal is with little Monkey here.....these repetative phrases.."it okay I close my eyes???!!!"I woke up bright and early at 4 AM this morning-just like I did last night and the night before, and the night before,with him crying and saying this and having a MAJOR meltdown as I wasnt there to respond to this phrase.....
Okay I didnt see this coming AT ALL-its been like this for as long as I can remember-me having to do certian things and having things just so at BEDTIME-I dealt with this with Stinger as well, so I thought it would get better???LOLOLOLand was somewhat just what I needed to do to calm him-so I did and he did-right? Well its getting worse-now its a quiet time too!!!!
This is how it goes(in case anyone wants to step into my world):
Monkey-"Goodnight Mom"
me-"Goodnight Monkey"
Monkey-"Have a goodtime on puter";)LOLOL He knows me well eh? LOLOL
me"Thank you Monkey"
Monkey-" Okay I close my eyes??!"
me-"yes Monkey, Its okay you close your eyes"
Monkey-" I love you Mom"
me-"I love you too Monkey"
Monkey-" It okay I close my eyes??"
Word for word-each and every time. And so the saga continues...after I close the door, after I go in the other room, after I go upstairs, and after I go to bed(hey I didnt say sleep did I?)....sigh....
So now its at nap(or quiet time)too....
I also forgot to prompt him to tell Daddy when he left today that(Monkey-" I have lots of firetrucks" needed to be said-so of course a meltdown and running to his room in tears-until I call Daddy and let Monkey say it yet agn.....(thsi also need to be said each and every time Dh leaves for work.
So I of course, consult the many experts of children and this is what they say:
"I have a friend who has high functioning autism and is an adult, she
says sometimes she repeats things to hear the sound of the words(she also
writes poetry and feels it is her way of communicating that works best
for her, she gets into a language flow that way). Sometimes kids repeat
things to get the same answer, because as she also says, she 'seeks
same" or predictability. These kids have so much trouble with transitions
and changes, that they seek something that will remain the same, that's
why many have repetitive behaviors, whether opening and closing things,
or repeating words and waiting for that same reassuring answer. As they
adjust to things, they may drop some questions, or not be as
anxious...just a couple reasons I have seen higher functioning kids give who can
express themselves.."
Okay so does that make me feel ANY better???????I dont think I have to answer that question........sigh....not right now anyway....sigh.....I REFUSE to think about it!!!!!!....
Friday, September 15, 2006
D-Day :)
I recieved this today through email........just incase anyone wants to understand what I was going through last year and why I was so against the time out room-that was being used 24/7......hmmmm.looks like I can FINALLY quote a case to them now. SOMEONE SOMEWHERE is FINALLY listening......:)YEAH!!!!!!!!!!:) :) :)
Court: Release names in timeout room
Published Wednesday, September 13, 2006 11:19:41 PM Central Time
By Kevin Murphy
Special to the Times
MADISON -- A federal appeals court ruled Wednesday that the
Department of Public Instruction must release the names of six unruly
special education children disciplined in Abraham Lincoln Elementary
School's controversial seclusion room to a disability rights advocacy
organization.
The Chicago-based Seventh U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals overturned a
decision by District Judge Barbara Crabb who denied a request by
Disability Rights of Wisconsin, Inc. finding that privacy laws
required the federally-mandated agency to get the children's names
from their parents or guardians.
Instead, the appeals court said that would be an undue burden on DRW,
which was established by federal law to advocate for and protect
individuals with mental illnesses or disabilities. Since both the
Department of Public Instruction and DRW are subject to the same
privacy laws, releasing the names to DRW isn't a concern, according
to the decision.
"To withhold the records in contention here is to give Å (DPI) the
last word over the abuse and neglect of the disabled or mentally ill.
This clearly defeats the purpose of the DRW and the (protect and
advocacy) statutes," according to the 19-page decision.
DRW attorney Jeffrey Spitzer-Resnick said the decision gives Crabb
discretion as to how the names of the children are to be disclosed,
including requiring DRW to keep them confidential, which Spitzer-
Resnick said the agency is required by law to do.
"We represent people with disabilities and advocate claims for people
with disabilities who are being abused. There's no question that
locking children in a room is abusive, and we have a right to that
information," he said.
School District of Monroe Superintendent Craig Jefson declined to
comment at this time, as the district received the court's decision
late last night and is still reading through it. He said the district
should have a response by Friday.
Abe Lincoln had two seclusion rooms, which were used to house
disruptive special education students for "time out" periods if their
Individual Education Programs permitted it. The one seclusion room
subject to DRW's injunction request was a five-by-nine-foot basement
room that was carpeted and locked from the outside without an
interior doorknob.
A parent complained to DRW in October 2004 about their child being
sent to the room without it being in their child's IEP. A Madison
television station then aired a program in March 2005 about the
seclusion room without naming the district.
The broadcast prompted other parents to contact DRW about the
seclusion room and since some of the children had limited verbal
skills it was difficult to determine if their child had been sent to
the room.
Responding to the broadcast and parents' complaint, the DPI
investigated Abe Lincoln and concluded that a seclusion room can be
properly used as a last resort disciplinary measure. However, after
finding that one of Abe Lincoln's rooms was used briefly when the
light was out and it lacked an interior doorknob, the district agreed
to replace the doorknob and add a larger window in the door to permit
outside monitoring of the entire room, according to the DPI's April
7, 2005 report.
With voluntary parental involvement, DRW has already negotiated
settlements with the school district for three of the children sent
to the seclusion room, said Spitzer-Resnick. As a result of the
settlements, one student was transferred to another school within the
district, staff was trained on how to avoid use of the seclusion room
and restraints and another child had their IEP rewritten to prohibit
use of the seclusion room.
A DPI spokesman said the agency hadn't seen Wednesday's appeals
decision and had no comment on it.
Spitzer-Resnick said once the DRW obtains the remaining names of the
students sent to the seclusion room, it's likely that new IEPs will
be written for them to address their education needs and allowable
disciplinary measures.
The decision comes after Monroe has addressed the seclusion room
problems at Abe Lincoln, said Spitzer-Resnick, so the impact of the
case will be felt elsewhere.
"What the decision clearly establishes is that the DPI shouldn't say
no to us anymore, nor should any school district. If they want to
litigate, they will lose," he said. --
Court: Release names in timeout room
Published Wednesday, September 13, 2006 11:19:41 PM Central Time
By Kevin Murphy
Special to the Times
MADISON -- A federal appeals court ruled Wednesday that the
Department of Public Instruction must release the names of six unruly
special education children disciplined in Abraham Lincoln Elementary
School's controversial seclusion room to a disability rights advocacy
organization.
The Chicago-based Seventh U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals overturned a
decision by District Judge Barbara Crabb who denied a request by
Disability Rights of Wisconsin, Inc. finding that privacy laws
required the federally-mandated agency to get the children's names
from their parents or guardians.
Instead, the appeals court said that would be an undue burden on DRW,
which was established by federal law to advocate for and protect
individuals with mental illnesses or disabilities. Since both the
Department of Public Instruction and DRW are subject to the same
privacy laws, releasing the names to DRW isn't a concern, according
to the decision.
"To withhold the records in contention here is to give Å (DPI) the
last word over the abuse and neglect of the disabled or mentally ill.
This clearly defeats the purpose of the DRW and the (protect and
advocacy) statutes," according to the 19-page decision.
DRW attorney Jeffrey Spitzer-Resnick said the decision gives Crabb
discretion as to how the names of the children are to be disclosed,
including requiring DRW to keep them confidential, which Spitzer-
Resnick said the agency is required by law to do.
"We represent people with disabilities and advocate claims for people
with disabilities who are being abused. There's no question that
locking children in a room is abusive, and we have a right to that
information," he said.
School District of Monroe Superintendent Craig Jefson declined to
comment at this time, as the district received the court's decision
late last night and is still reading through it. He said the district
should have a response by Friday.
Abe Lincoln had two seclusion rooms, which were used to house
disruptive special education students for "time out" periods if their
Individual Education Programs permitted it. The one seclusion room
subject to DRW's injunction request was a five-by-nine-foot basement
room that was carpeted and locked from the outside without an
interior doorknob.
A parent complained to DRW in October 2004 about their child being
sent to the room without it being in their child's IEP. A Madison
television station then aired a program in March 2005 about the
seclusion room without naming the district.
The broadcast prompted other parents to contact DRW about the
seclusion room and since some of the children had limited verbal
skills it was difficult to determine if their child had been sent to
the room.
Responding to the broadcast and parents' complaint, the DPI
investigated Abe Lincoln and concluded that a seclusion room can be
properly used as a last resort disciplinary measure. However, after
finding that one of Abe Lincoln's rooms was used briefly when the
light was out and it lacked an interior doorknob, the district agreed
to replace the doorknob and add a larger window in the door to permit
outside monitoring of the entire room, according to the DPI's April
7, 2005 report.
With voluntary parental involvement, DRW has already negotiated
settlements with the school district for three of the children sent
to the seclusion room, said Spitzer-Resnick. As a result of the
settlements, one student was transferred to another school within the
district, staff was trained on how to avoid use of the seclusion room
and restraints and another child had their IEP rewritten to prohibit
use of the seclusion room.
A DPI spokesman said the agency hadn't seen Wednesday's appeals
decision and had no comment on it.
Spitzer-Resnick said once the DRW obtains the remaining names of the
students sent to the seclusion room, it's likely that new IEPs will
be written for them to address their education needs and allowable
disciplinary measures.
The decision comes after Monroe has addressed the seclusion room
problems at Abe Lincoln, said Spitzer-Resnick, so the impact of the
case will be felt elsewhere.
"What the decision clearly establishes is that the DPI shouldn't say
no to us anymore, nor should any school district. If they want to
litigate, they will lose," he said. --
Thursday, September 07, 2006
Well...not to jinks a good thing........
Im concerned agn-Hey-WHATS NEW!!!!!!!!
Its this new teacher(okay.....I KNOW everyone adores her already..)
Its this friend that Stinger has(okay.....This is Wonderful that Stinger has a friend-I KNOW this)
Its just some things are not going as perfectly planned-LOLOLOL. Maybee Im just paranoid-as usual.
Stinger has been coming home with little things now-not all smiley faces etc-and they are at recess and lunch etc, PE etc. Ive had a talk with him to try and figure things out and honestly I dont know what to do.
Stinger was literally crying and upset abt getting a frowny face-and I was stumped.....Seams this new friend has alot of the touchy feely things Stinger was dealing with last year-trouble with peers, pinching, kicking, going back to his bullies-when he should be leaving them alone or telling the tecaher. Stinger feels that this is his best buddy and that it is HIS job to be out there ALWAYS by his side protecting him....be it maybee having to punch a kid to leave this friend alone...Stinger said numerous times he would do this....then he started to cry.:(
But anyway Stinger feels he needs to be there and teach this kid and keep him out of trouble-as he KNOWS what trouble is;)LOLOLOL, but he ends up getting caught right in the middle and of course doesnt understand that EVERYONE is watching Stinger and sees him involved-thus blaming Stinger.......I just told him that he needs to be VERY careful with choices he is making and that he needs to tell the teachers. But we all know what good that does. This friend is delayed as well so he doenst alwasy understand what peers are doing or meaning and takes things wrong I think too-just as Stinger does..
My heart is torn as we will probaly be having to go back to guided recesses(as we had last year)honestly dont ask me why we stopped. But now its going to be a REAL problem starting them agn, as he has made this STRONG attachment with this friend. So I dont know what to do. This is the 1st friendship Stinger has had with ANY peer and its not looking so good.....Stinger has done sooo well with his impulse issues and I am sooo proud of him, but this friend isnt having the same luck it seams and I dont know what to tell Stinger......
For example today-there was a kid waiting outside the lunch doors and told them that he was going to watch Stinger and this friend all recess-Stinger and this friend didnt like that they ran away then the kid chased them then they chased them etc.... and so the chasing began-and then Stinger got in trouble and recieved a frowny face:( This is what Stinger said-and hes not a lier at ALL. Thats one thing abt Stinger-he tells the truth-has never been caught not saying what really happend or anything that a typical kid does when they think they are in trouble-he comes right out and says what went on.He has given me no reason to doubt what he says when especially abt school issues-hes always been right on. So when he tells me something, and I have to pry it out of him, I sit up and take it seriously...He tells it all and says it like it is- But others dont believe him much of the time-which was the case last year-until the principle got involved-went outside and actually watched Stinger at recesses and noticed that he was indeed getting picked on like he said...sigh.....NO ONE believed us until then...
I talked with the principle abt it and he is concerned that Stinger isnt playing with any other kids etc and that they cant seam to seperate them. But if anyone knows Stinger this is not going to be an easy task if attempted and I can just see trouble.....Once he has something or someone stuck in his head, like he does with this friend-thats were he will be, thats what he will talk abt, and thats what IS important!!!-kwim? No talking him out of it just like his conversations-If its in there-thats what we talk abt etc.
Then the teacher......sigh......she has only nice things to say abt Stinger...but something just feels off. I talked to the spec ed teacher abt why the board wasnt being used(its in his IEP)Its a transition board to help him visually see what is coming next so he isnt anxious or worried abt things etc. He especially needs this at transition times as he gets very nervous-not wanting to go into the classroom etc-if he hasnt been prepared each and every time. The teacher has a "class" schedule but it doesnt help Stinger as he cant understand the words on it!!!????I even brought the board up at this last IEP meeting!!!!!So the speced teacher said he would talk to the teacher and now they have put pictures up by the words???-so still no board!!!!!When Stinger gets pulled out of class for his things speech etc-how is THIS schedule going to help him????Stingers teacher is also not wanting to disrupt HER schedule for hi social scripts(stating at the IEP meeting that "OH!He cant miss calendar time!!!" UGH...and then the sped teacher walking on tip toes ard this-not wanting to offend her.....he stated that the Social Scripts(they are stories set up just for Stinger that have certian situations on them-so he can see actual events taking place and are helping him know what to do when certian situations like that come up that he has trouble reacting to etc) are very important and that he likes to start the day off with them with Stinger so he can think abt them first thing-I am in total aggreement with this.....but then the teacher has her own schedule that cant be changed???
Little things like that are bugging me-I REALLY have no idea what is going on in that classroom and Stinger says he hardly sees his sped teacher at all anymore. How is that possible when he is suppoed to go to reading with him, writing and social scripts etc EACH day???? He is also suposed to coem into teh calls and help Stinger at Math time-So something is up.....
The teacher sent home Stingers spelling words and its words like amphibian etc????(Stinger had no idea what that even was)with no directions etc-Stinger had no clue what he was supposed to do with them-neither did I-so I had to call her and tell her that Stinger has a hard time remembering or telling me directions and that any info that needs to be conveyed back out to parents-no matter how little or big it is- needs to be written down????I still dont know if they are having a test on Friday-I HOPE not!!!!Since nothing was sent home abt it. But I dont think she is understanding how these little things are BIG things to Stinger and he needs help here.... I honestly dont think she has even seen the IEP-or why would she not know these things????
I dont know-its just bugging me is all.....I see this teacher and I know she is a good teacher. She is VERY structured and Stinger needed this,she adores him and all, was hand picked for him as were the peers in his class...but...its like she has her little ducks and doesnt want them out of order or out of HER line so to speak-kwim? And that is going to catch up with Stinger sooner or later.....I think hes been dealing with it REALLY well...but its going to catch up to them all I think as they arent supplying his proper supports as they should be.I just dont undersatnd thsi at all -and I feel like im a nagging parent here.....
But Ive got a meeting on the 19th-so hopefully we can get it all out then????
So the story begins yet agn........
Its this new teacher(okay.....I KNOW everyone adores her already..)
Its this friend that Stinger has(okay.....This is Wonderful that Stinger has a friend-I KNOW this)
Its just some things are not going as perfectly planned-LOLOLOL. Maybee Im just paranoid-as usual.
Stinger has been coming home with little things now-not all smiley faces etc-and they are at recess and lunch etc, PE etc. Ive had a talk with him to try and figure things out and honestly I dont know what to do.
Stinger was literally crying and upset abt getting a frowny face-and I was stumped.....Seams this new friend has alot of the touchy feely things Stinger was dealing with last year-trouble with peers, pinching, kicking, going back to his bullies-when he should be leaving them alone or telling the tecaher. Stinger feels that this is his best buddy and that it is HIS job to be out there ALWAYS by his side protecting him....be it maybee having to punch a kid to leave this friend alone...Stinger said numerous times he would do this....then he started to cry.:(
But anyway Stinger feels he needs to be there and teach this kid and keep him out of trouble-as he KNOWS what trouble is;)LOLOLOL, but he ends up getting caught right in the middle and of course doesnt understand that EVERYONE is watching Stinger and sees him involved-thus blaming Stinger.......I just told him that he needs to be VERY careful with choices he is making and that he needs to tell the teachers. But we all know what good that does. This friend is delayed as well so he doenst alwasy understand what peers are doing or meaning and takes things wrong I think too-just as Stinger does..
My heart is torn as we will probaly be having to go back to guided recesses(as we had last year)honestly dont ask me why we stopped. But now its going to be a REAL problem starting them agn, as he has made this STRONG attachment with this friend. So I dont know what to do. This is the 1st friendship Stinger has had with ANY peer and its not looking so good.....Stinger has done sooo well with his impulse issues and I am sooo proud of him, but this friend isnt having the same luck it seams and I dont know what to tell Stinger......
For example today-there was a kid waiting outside the lunch doors and told them that he was going to watch Stinger and this friend all recess-Stinger and this friend didnt like that they ran away then the kid chased them then they chased them etc.... and so the chasing began-and then Stinger got in trouble and recieved a frowny face:( This is what Stinger said-and hes not a lier at ALL. Thats one thing abt Stinger-he tells the truth-has never been caught not saying what really happend or anything that a typical kid does when they think they are in trouble-he comes right out and says what went on.He has given me no reason to doubt what he says when especially abt school issues-hes always been right on. So when he tells me something, and I have to pry it out of him, I sit up and take it seriously...He tells it all and says it like it is- But others dont believe him much of the time-which was the case last year-until the principle got involved-went outside and actually watched Stinger at recesses and noticed that he was indeed getting picked on like he said...sigh.....NO ONE believed us until then...
I talked with the principle abt it and he is concerned that Stinger isnt playing with any other kids etc and that they cant seam to seperate them. But if anyone knows Stinger this is not going to be an easy task if attempted and I can just see trouble.....Once he has something or someone stuck in his head, like he does with this friend-thats were he will be, thats what he will talk abt, and thats what IS important!!!-kwim? No talking him out of it just like his conversations-If its in there-thats what we talk abt etc.
Then the teacher......sigh......she has only nice things to say abt Stinger...but something just feels off. I talked to the spec ed teacher abt why the board wasnt being used(its in his IEP)Its a transition board to help him visually see what is coming next so he isnt anxious or worried abt things etc. He especially needs this at transition times as he gets very nervous-not wanting to go into the classroom etc-if he hasnt been prepared each and every time. The teacher has a "class" schedule but it doesnt help Stinger as he cant understand the words on it!!!????I even brought the board up at this last IEP meeting!!!!!So the speced teacher said he would talk to the teacher and now they have put pictures up by the words???-so still no board!!!!!When Stinger gets pulled out of class for his things speech etc-how is THIS schedule going to help him????Stingers teacher is also not wanting to disrupt HER schedule for hi social scripts(stating at the IEP meeting that "OH!He cant miss calendar time!!!" UGH...and then the sped teacher walking on tip toes ard this-not wanting to offend her.....he stated that the Social Scripts(they are stories set up just for Stinger that have certian situations on them-so he can see actual events taking place and are helping him know what to do when certian situations like that come up that he has trouble reacting to etc) are very important and that he likes to start the day off with them with Stinger so he can think abt them first thing-I am in total aggreement with this.....but then the teacher has her own schedule that cant be changed???
Little things like that are bugging me-I REALLY have no idea what is going on in that classroom and Stinger says he hardly sees his sped teacher at all anymore. How is that possible when he is suppoed to go to reading with him, writing and social scripts etc EACH day???? He is also suposed to coem into teh calls and help Stinger at Math time-So something is up.....
The teacher sent home Stingers spelling words and its words like amphibian etc????(Stinger had no idea what that even was)with no directions etc-Stinger had no clue what he was supposed to do with them-neither did I-so I had to call her and tell her that Stinger has a hard time remembering or telling me directions and that any info that needs to be conveyed back out to parents-no matter how little or big it is- needs to be written down????I still dont know if they are having a test on Friday-I HOPE not!!!!Since nothing was sent home abt it. But I dont think she is understanding how these little things are BIG things to Stinger and he needs help here.... I honestly dont think she has even seen the IEP-or why would she not know these things????
I dont know-its just bugging me is all.....I see this teacher and I know she is a good teacher. She is VERY structured and Stinger needed this,she adores him and all, was hand picked for him as were the peers in his class...but...its like she has her little ducks and doesnt want them out of order or out of HER line so to speak-kwim? And that is going to catch up with Stinger sooner or later.....I think hes been dealing with it REALLY well...but its going to catch up to them all I think as they arent supplying his proper supports as they should be.I just dont undersatnd thsi at all -and I feel like im a nagging parent here.....
But Ive got a meeting on the 19th-so hopefully we can get it all out then????
So the story begins yet agn........
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
Labor Day...
Well I know it was Monday-Im sooo slow.
So it was decided to try a Movie....:)I was voting to go to Willard Lake, but was highly outvoted when Dh mentioned a "movie anyone??" LOLOLOL.How do you compete with that!!!!! So Movie it was.....
This was little Monkeys first movie and our families first movie all together. Monkey was sooo funny-he was sooo excited, yet when asked abt it-he had NO IDEA! LOLOLOLOL Too funny;)Stinger and Flamingo have both been before with either dh and I or Papa and Nana-so they knew what to expect and were just as excited:)
We decided to see 'Cars'. Something everyone would enjoy. We had previously thought abt Monster House-but it got terrible reviews by parents-so that was out....
So we load up the kids with each their own propcorn/drink/candy(you know those combo meal things)Monkey boy was just beside himself and I think he had finished his popcorn before we even went in to the theatre-LOLOLOL. But not to worry-he stil had his candy and drink;)LOLOLOLWhew!;)Stinger and Flamingo did just fine carrying all their goodies and wouldnt think about having any help-lest they somehow loose one of the yummy items-LOLOL
So we all sat down to enjoy a movie for the first time EVER-and guess what......we all did!!!!!!It was one word and one word only-blissful. Okay I know what you are saying -how can a Cars movie with a bunch of screaming kids ard and a loud car screeching be anything "blissful"???But thats just it-I sat down looked ard-other parents looked frazzled, other children looked cranky and you could hear it.LOLOL Then I looked at our kids-eyes glued to the screen, smiles plastered from ear to ear on each face = blissful. Our little family each one in a total happy place.Its as if time wa sstanding still and we were all alone in their-kwim?
I knwo ist hard to understand. But when you have to think abt taking 3 kids with you wherever you go-these things all way out and have to be considerd. A 4,6,and 7yr old and the 4 yr old constantly a little monkey with ants in his pants, and Stinger a complete mystery how he will react to things-places and events are NEVER taken lightly-LOLOLOL. And WHEN they are a success-it is something to be celebrated and CONTINUED!!!!LOLOL
So I think we have decided to make this a monthly "family thing" it just went over soooo well.
We stopped at Sonic on teh way home and got a bite to eat-the kids were just so goofy-not touching anything, totally in the off zoning out etc-I guess the movie wore them out or they were just plum stuffed. They all nodded off in the car on the drive back home.
A great Labor Day?? I thought so........
So it was decided to try a Movie....:)I was voting to go to Willard Lake, but was highly outvoted when Dh mentioned a "movie anyone??" LOLOLOL.How do you compete with that!!!!! So Movie it was.....
This was little Monkeys first movie and our families first movie all together. Monkey was sooo funny-he was sooo excited, yet when asked abt it-he had NO IDEA! LOLOLOLOL Too funny;)Stinger and Flamingo have both been before with either dh and I or Papa and Nana-so they knew what to expect and were just as excited:)
We decided to see 'Cars'. Something everyone would enjoy. We had previously thought abt Monster House-but it got terrible reviews by parents-so that was out....
So we load up the kids with each their own propcorn/drink/candy(you know those combo meal things)Monkey boy was just beside himself and I think he had finished his popcorn before we even went in to the theatre-LOLOLOL. But not to worry-he stil had his candy and drink;)LOLOLOLWhew!;)Stinger and Flamingo did just fine carrying all their goodies and wouldnt think about having any help-lest they somehow loose one of the yummy items-LOLOL
So we all sat down to enjoy a movie for the first time EVER-and guess what......we all did!!!!!!It was one word and one word only-blissful. Okay I know what you are saying -how can a Cars movie with a bunch of screaming kids ard and a loud car screeching be anything "blissful"???But thats just it-I sat down looked ard-other parents looked frazzled, other children looked cranky and you could hear it.LOLOL Then I looked at our kids-eyes glued to the screen, smiles plastered from ear to ear on each face = blissful. Our little family each one in a total happy place.Its as if time wa sstanding still and we were all alone in their-kwim?
I knwo ist hard to understand. But when you have to think abt taking 3 kids with you wherever you go-these things all way out and have to be considerd. A 4,6,and 7yr old and the 4 yr old constantly a little monkey with ants in his pants, and Stinger a complete mystery how he will react to things-places and events are NEVER taken lightly-LOLOLOL. And WHEN they are a success-it is something to be celebrated and CONTINUED!!!!LOLOL
So I think we have decided to make this a monthly "family thing" it just went over soooo well.
We stopped at Sonic on teh way home and got a bite to eat-the kids were just so goofy-not touching anything, totally in the off zoning out etc-I guess the movie wore them out or they were just plum stuffed. They all nodded off in the car on the drive back home.
A great Labor Day?? I thought so........
Saturday, September 02, 2006
A GREAT Week!!!!!! :)
Well we all survived here this week :)
Stinger has been getting nothing but good reports from everyone. He even got a post card from the teacher today in the mail telling him how proud she is to have him in her class and what a great job he is doing. I have seen a couple worksheets come home this week and I seriously cannot believe the change in concentration he is having. He finished two sides of a math worksheet(in one day!!!!) and only missed 1 problem. Last year he would get sooo frustrated that he could barely finish one side page......then he was throwing the paper and getting just so frustrated. He was so proud of himself when he was showing me his math pages-so-a total change this week...Also he showed me a picture he had colored in-was beautifully done. He had also written a STORY?????and pasted together a sunflower at school(I havent seen this one yet) but the teacher wrote a note home saying that Stingers picture was so well done and that he is quiet the artist!!!!!!!He had no patience fro drawing ANYTHING last year.....I have to keep pinching myself lately.......but it is wonderful seeing him work so hard and be proud of this work he is being able to do now:)THIS has been REALLY wonderful!!!!!!!!HE has been playing with a kid from 1st grade at recess-they are like two pees in a pod these days:)
Pink Flamingo has just been loving school-she comes home all smiles and loves riding the bus(she likes going down the steps-LOLOLOL;))She has been making fiends-everyday she tells me that she made some more-LOLOLOL-like that will surprise you??!!LOLOLOL She is doing really well and is just so happy. She has almost got writing her name down-this is too funny-she has to make it all pretty with curls on the "P"-LOLOLOL, she is also learning the pledge and almost has this down too:)Its very cute listening to that!
Little Monkey has a cold-then Flamingo has it, now Stinger has it too. Im just waiting for DH to catch it-he seams to catch everything they get-I dont-lucky me-;) LOLOLOL But Monkey has been rather moody lately and Flamingo too when she comes home from school-I try and put her down for a quite time, but she just wants to fall asleep on the couch. I think she's been working really hard.Everyone has been working really hard thsi week-Im a proud Momma Bear-yet AGAIN! :)
So its been a WONDERFUL week!Im praying for MANY, MANY more :)
Stinger has been getting nothing but good reports from everyone. He even got a post card from the teacher today in the mail telling him how proud she is to have him in her class and what a great job he is doing. I have seen a couple worksheets come home this week and I seriously cannot believe the change in concentration he is having. He finished two sides of a math worksheet(in one day!!!!) and only missed 1 problem. Last year he would get sooo frustrated that he could barely finish one side page......then he was throwing the paper and getting just so frustrated. He was so proud of himself when he was showing me his math pages-so-a total change this week...Also he showed me a picture he had colored in-was beautifully done. He had also written a STORY?????and pasted together a sunflower at school(I havent seen this one yet) but the teacher wrote a note home saying that Stingers picture was so well done and that he is quiet the artist!!!!!!!He had no patience fro drawing ANYTHING last year.....I have to keep pinching myself lately.......but it is wonderful seeing him work so hard and be proud of this work he is being able to do now:)THIS has been REALLY wonderful!!!!!!!!HE has been playing with a kid from 1st grade at recess-they are like two pees in a pod these days:)
Pink Flamingo has just been loving school-she comes home all smiles and loves riding the bus(she likes going down the steps-LOLOLOL;))She has been making fiends-everyday she tells me that she made some more-LOLOLOL-like that will surprise you??!!LOLOLOL She is doing really well and is just so happy. She has almost got writing her name down-this is too funny-she has to make it all pretty with curls on the "P"-LOLOLOL, she is also learning the pledge and almost has this down too:)Its very cute listening to that!
Little Monkey has a cold-then Flamingo has it, now Stinger has it too. Im just waiting for DH to catch it-he seams to catch everything they get-I dont-lucky me-;) LOLOLOL But Monkey has been rather moody lately and Flamingo too when she comes home from school-I try and put her down for a quite time, but she just wants to fall asleep on the couch. I think she's been working really hard.Everyone has been working really hard thsi week-Im a proud Momma Bear-yet AGAIN! :)
So its been a WONDERFUL week!Im praying for MANY, MANY more :)
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